A year ago I broke out of being silenced by stigma by writing and documenting my experiences with male narcissists. The abuse I was subjected to from my ex was truly life altering, I’m lucky to of made it out alive I was killing myself over and over by staying in a relationship with a heavily disordered man.
The trauma I endured will stay with me for the rest of my life but by stopping myself being afraid to speak my truth I have helped thousands of men and women worldwide and will continue to do so.
You must always remember narcs are not well balanced people contributing positively to life and relationships. They’re toxic.
It’s a con trick. It’s the proverbial donkey and carrot situation. The carrot is static on a stick in front of the donkey, just out of reach to eat. The donkey supposedly just keeps walking and walking in the hope of reaching the carrot, which of course it never will. The stick will never get any shorter and even if it walks faster it can’t get closer to the carrot. The carrot is ALWAYS and FOREVER unobtainable and ALWAYS WAS. The huge gap between what the donkey wants and what’s available is permanent. The gap is all that’s on offer, EVER. The carrot could represent the narcs dreams…. but he doesn’t tell you you’re not included in those dreams… you never were… everything’s his, no matter how much effort and for how long you make that effort. MORAL OF THE STORY…… don’t follow someone else’s dreams… for you or them.
They get pleasure/supply from another’s pain or downfall, makes them feel ‘more than’ they are.
They get pleasure/supply from conning people out of their assets.. money, prestige, energy, material goods, status, social standing, etc - no conscience whatsoever.
They just love getting through life at someone else’s expense, material, psychological, emotional, spiritual. They’re parasitic.
Speak up and save yourself and others there is no shame in admitting you were abused I promise you there’s so many people willing to help you and listen 💕🤗🙏